So it appears we are actually doing this IVF thing. Mad Scientist called us back last night AT 10:30. He schedules call-backs on Friday evenings after he’s finished seeing patients. Roughly between the hours of 9 and midnight. No joke.
Anyway, he answered all of my questions. No PIO (hallelujah!), no minimum AFC to start the cycle, he def recommends transferring *at least* two embryos (he said he would be fine with 3 if that’s what we wanted, but he back tracked when he heard me gasp/moan at the thought). I’m trying to psych myself up for the whole experience and not allow myself to cash in the one way ticket to Anxiety Land. I am going to start keeping a daily diary of my experience, calling it NHL to IVF.
Meanwhile, I need to bitch about a “friend”. I think I’ve written about this person before. Let’s call her Regina (think mean girls). I have known her/been friends with her since I was 10. She is extremely self-centered and this worked for me as a teenager because I wanted out of my house, so I always fled to hers. But as an adult, it is totally irritating and off-putting. Go figure. Long story short, she has a 4 year old daughter and thought she would have trouble conceiving her 2nd child. She even took a round of clomid! Whew. Then, she got pg on her own a few months later (non-medicated). Delivered said baby in January and he has been a high maintenance kid. Some health complications, colicky, and her own PPD have made things tough for her.
Enter me. I try to be helpful, supportive, a good friend, even though it kills me that she is having a hard time with something I would give a pinky toe for. For the third time in the past month, I offered to go out for pedis after a meeting I had yesterday near her house. And for the third time, she declined because she has to do something fun with her nanny and kids since it is *almost* her nanny’s last day on the job.
SERIOUSLY? You have a nanny, whose job it is to watch your kids (even though you are on full maternity leave you still have a full time nanny, let’s just leave that to the side), and you can’t take an hour out of your day to come get a pedicure with me? Then you don’t really have problems, girlfriend. If you needed to have some time away from your VERY tough life, you would take it when it’s offered. Oh, and do you think she has bothered to call me ONCE in the past 6 months to ask me how I’m doing? What are our plans? What’s happening with IVF? You’d be right if you thought not.
This has nothing to do with IF, it’s just me venting about a person who is an asshole and I should just stop putting myself out there for her. Z is used to it by now, but he doesn’t understand why I’m surprised that she continues the same patterns of behavior year after year after year. Our families are friends and we have other mutual friends – otherwise, I would drop that shit so fast, she would NEVA see me again. Since I can’t, I’ll just let it all out here, to you fine folks.
Thanks for listening.